Ask Mama Jenn-continued
8/4/01
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Thank you, Sweetiepie!
Mama loves you too!
Mama sends you lots of hugs and sweet kisses for her Baby Stevie.
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Dear Mama Jenn,
Baby just wants to thank you for being here for him and all your other babies. You are a wonderfully kind, caring and loving mommy and baby always feels safe and secure here. It is very reassuring to know that you will always care for me and never make me give up my diapers. Baby hopes that you will be blessed every day with the same tender, loving kindness that you shower upon your babies (and with good health as well!).
Love and hugs,
Baby Stevie, your wet toddler
Mama wants every one of her babies to feel safe and secure at her Website. Mama has had to look after several members in her immediate family who have been direly ill recently and has unfortunately neglected to some extent her other babies. Rest assured, Pumpkin, that Mama hasn't forgotten anyone and their need to correspond with Mama. Mama loves you all and will never forget your need to talk to her.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Dear Mama Jenn,
I have recently become the proud mother of a wonderful baby boy. We would like some assistance in our initial role play. Could you give us some suggestions? My baby is quite different in that he enjoys golden showers prior to my bathing him. We need some help, please.
Angeline
Golden showers are not exactly AB play, but bathes are. After baby has become thoroughly wet from the waist down, bath him as usual except use bubble bath and have baby toys in the bath. Bathe him with Johnson & Johnson Baby Soap and Shampoo while he plays with his bath toys. Do not allow him to speak in other than baby talk while he is in the tub. Give him a strong dose of a laxative such as Milk of Magnesia before bathing or a Fleet Enema when he has finished bathing. After his bath, he should have a snack of a large amount of watermelon (a natural diuretic) with a bottle of baby formula sweetened with lactose and laced with liquid Ducolax. Diaper him in one of the thicker disposable diapers such as Attends, Tranquility or Moliforms and place diaper doublers in both the front and rear to absorb the extra liquid.
If the "shower" begins early in the day, then you can bib and feed him breakfast, change him afterwards and allow him to watch cartoons, put him down for a nap before lunch, then feed and change him again, allow him to play and then feed and change him after dinner. You can play "mommy" games with baby during playtime (See our AB Resources section) or give him a massage. You can dress him as you please after diapering him and even take him out for lunch or dinner at a fast food restaurant and buy him a children's meal in public if his diaper is covered in acceptable clothes. Or you can leave him in just diaper in the back seat and order meal for him.
Idea: Oshash by Gosh Overall shortalls are available in adult sizes with snap-legs and crouch for easy diaper changing. These are very similar to the women's denim shortalls style which have lately become very popular. You can lead him into a nice restaurant following you as you grip his hand firmly as if he were a confused and wayward toddler. No one will take notice of his baby clothes until he is bibed and you begin spoon-feeding your baby.
If you need any more ideas, email me.
Mama Jenn
Dear Momma Jen,
I don't mean this the way it sounds, but I'm asking you this, because I feel the proper connection, meaning I feel a nurturing understanding. That it'll be ok. I don't picture you as my mother, but you have a ke that, I would feel like an adult, but it would be like my baby side would be forgotten. I want to experience those baby feelings. That's why I don't know how much this has to do with my infantilism. I would probably settle down for a while, but I know I would have the need to be babied again, and I also wouldn't like the feeling that I was pushed away from my baby feelings. What do you think all of this has to do with my infantilism. Do you think that I wanted to be a baby again when I said that about growing up to my social worker, and was just blaming this on bad parenting somehow? Because, I said to her that if I hadn't grown up with farytales, I wouldn't have been depressed or week. My grandfather said I had to be a
man, when I got hurt, and I guess at other times too, BUT I could feel like a man. I didn't want to be one inside. What do you think. I don't like things lying around like that.
Well, me gots to go now, mes just went poopoo. Hehehe.
Buhbye momma Jen.
Baby Jamie
Mama Jenn truly doesn't understand why you want to have lived in rougher circumstances. Most people are depressed because they have been ill treated during their childhood rather than wanting to be punished by having a more terrible childhood. It sounds to me like you are very angry, but unsure with whom you are angry who or what you are against.
Somehow Mama gets the feeling that you just want to forget everyone and everything and just start over as a little baby. That is not a bad feeling to have, especially if you are so confused that you don't know whom to be angry with. It's rather obvious to me that you are livid that your real parents were not able to raise you and gave you up to your grandparents who could care for you. Your grandparents have tried their best, but had they been perfect parents, your mother would have been raised properly to take care of you.
Honey, you are a man because you have the courage to write and ask for advice. There is nothing wrong with being an Adult Baby and it doesn't lessen your manhood. Don't be angry with your parents, you grandparents or yourself. It's okay to be an adult baby. It's okay to want to be hugged and snuggled. It's okay to wear, wet and mess your diapers. It's okay to want to be loved and cared for. It's okay to suck your thumb and to play like a baby. It's okay to want to be loved unconditionally.
Sweetheart, don't despair! I'm here to listen to your needs and answer you. I love all of my babies!
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn:
The shrinks kept saying that my infantilism will keep me from growing or developing. Is this true? I didn't do anything. I feel like someone's shouting at me. I can't get rid of it. I need it.
On a much happier note, where can I buy big baby furniture?
Hugs and lots of kisses.
Buhby. Hehehehe.
Baby Jamie
Since I don't know your age or circumstances, I can't address your psychiatrist's prognosis directly. Mama can say that your infantilism is a symptom of your late maturation rather than a cause and is not something to feel guilty about. Your psychiatrist has everything backwards, when you actualize your need to be a baby you are happy, and when you repress your needs to be a baby you become depressed. On a statistical basis, the prognosis of your changing from an AB to a "normal" lifestyle is very slim. Accept what you are and be a happy baby! Other people always have some expectations that we cannot meet. You are not going to wake up tomorrow and be everything everyone wants. Wet your diapers, drink from baby bottles as you will. Work hard in the adult world and be the best employee that you can be. More than that, no one can ask of you!
Look in the AB resources section for where to find big baby furniture. Big baby furniture is expensive, Sweetheart!
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Dear Mama
Me no know if Mama Jenn remembers me or not. I wrote a long time ago about
finding a mommy and you gave me some tips. Just wanted too tells you how
everything going. It no going as good as me would of hoped but alot better
then it was. Me have two online mommies that live together makeing sure baby
is doing everything him is suppposed too. Them even made me stand in corner
and watched on me web cam to make sure me did it. They also tell me when I
can have one of my treats for being a good boy. Which is lots 'cause me
always good boy. Me hope every thing is going as good in your life. Thanks
you so much for all your help.
*big kiss on the chin*
lots of loves
Baby Bri Bri
Mama Jenn is so happy that you have found two online mommies for you. Mama has never thought of it, but a using Webcam to make sure that baby is being obedient is a wonderful idea! Mama is very happy for you!
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Dear Mama,
the other night myself and a woman i met went to a hotel room to play baby.
she didnt want to diaper me right away so i did it myself. i crawled around
she talked baby to me put bottle in my mouth and pacifier. but since we btoh
had never done this before we didnt know what to do, we both really like
this, any suggestions for what we can do to make this better.
thanks.
newbaby
Have you thought about a bubble bath with a rubber ducky? Or perhaps a nice bottle full of warm formula while you are nestled against mommy's bosom to fill your tummy? Playing patty-cake and other baby games with mommy is fun too. Mama Jenn has a list of nice baby games to play with your mommy in the AB resources section of our Website. How about a baby massage after your bath? Or maybe baby would like to have a nice dinner of applesauce or other babyfood spoon-fed to him from a jar by mommy while he wears a bib. Maybe you'd like to wet your dypee and have mommy change it. How about having mommy read you a nice story, like Winnie-the-Poo? Maybe mommy would enjoy having baby lie down beside her and suckle at her titties like a real baby. Of course, baby shouldn't speak except in babytalk to make the experience more real. Having mommy dress you in baby clothes can be fun too! When you leave the motel, assuming that the bill has been paid, mommy should drive while you sit in the back seat of the car with your binkie pinned to your shirt while you suck on your ba-ba. Of course you'll be wearing nothing below your waist but your diapees around your bottom. She might even want to stop by an all night drive-in for a burger and get you something from the children's menu for yourself as you suck your thumb while sitting in the backseat of the car. You and mommy might even like blowing big soap bubbles while you sit on the floor of the motel room.
There are lots and lots of baby games and things to do with mommy. You might enjoy a board game of Candyland or other board game for your age group. Baby time should be a time of play and enjoyment without worry or embarrassment, Sweetheart!
Have a good time with your new mommy, Sugarplum!
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
hi mama jenn
I have never warn a diaper before but I think I
want to start wearing and using disposables. I just want to know what they
are like. how do they feel dry and when they are wet. I'm hoping that they
are really squishy and mushy when wet because I want to be able to squish
around in my wet diaper all day and feel the warm gel and stuff. and whats a
good type to buy. I think I want something that can take a lot of both peepee
and poopy.
wetdiaper
I think that I'll let my baby Stuie answer this one:
deaar wetties, me lub wet diappess! Posables are good good cause they gets all nice big and warm squishys when me wets thems. Sometimes I make poopies too. Clot diappees are nice and soft but don't get squshyees, but dey feels good in the morning all nice, wet an warm.
Mama Jenn: Moliform, Tranquility and Attends disposable diapers are the most comfortable disposables on the market (according to my baby Stuie).
Love and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Hello Mama Jenn.
My name wittle josh and me normally a good wittle boy for my daddy but lately
me been naughty cuz me no wanna go bed early when it's light outside me wanna
stay up like a big boy. daddy says i still gots to go bed at 8:00 no matter
what but i just wanna stay up and watch movies. help me mamma jenn
love josh
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Babies need to get their sleep, otherwise they get fussy and irritable the next day. Your Daddy is right, you should be in bed by 8:00 PM every night. Be a good boy and go to sleep when Daddy says you should, you can watch TV during the afternoons. Perhaps your daddy can record the movies that you want to watch if you are good and the movies are appropriate to your age group.
Love and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Hi mama jenn.
I have a question for you. I know a woman that I care for
greatly and I have recently found that she is an AB girl. I have talked with her about
this and she is willing to do an AB session with me. I to am an AB but I dont know
how to tell her. She thinks that I am just your average joe. I am wondering if I
should tell her about my AB side and if would would affect the relationship between me and
her. Should I tell her I love to endulge myself in diapers and plastic pants?
thanx
babyjoshie
The decision to tell your lady love about the AB part of yourself should be considered carefully. Before you tell her about your needs as AB, she should be convinced of your love and devotion to her. Let the time and place be right (perhaps a candlelight dinner at a good restaurant might be in order) when you tell her that you love her and would like to share a night of non-sexual love as an AB with her. Unless I miss my guess, she will jump at the chance, especially if you woo her in a sufficiently romantic fashion. She sounds like the perfect playmate for you.
Love and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Dear Mama Jenn:
Do you know of any good penis chastities made of all metal or plastic that can be locked on adult sissy babies under their diapers to prevent them from playing with themselves? I'm looking for something that can be left locked on indefinitely.
Baby Crinklepants
I would NEVER put a chastity belt on one of my babies! Real babies don't wear chastity belts so I haven't developed any resources for them. You might try searching the Internet by going to: www.google.com and searching for "male chastity belts". There is at least one manufacturer that makes a chastity belt for long term wear without removing it. It's lined and is hypoallergenic.
Good luck on finding a chastity belt, Darling.
Love, Mama Jenn
Dear Mama Jenn,
Mom has just finished tucking me, kissed me good night, and left, closing the door softly behind her. Now in darkness, I lift up the top covers. I close my eyes for a second to saver the sweet oder of the baby powder she has just sprinkled on me and inside my rubber pants. With every movement I can feel and hear my rubber sheet crinkle underneath my "Action Heroes" bottom sheet. I begin to suck my thumb as I try to understand why I feel so fully contented. I can't explain it. I can't find the right words that fully discribe this beautiful sense of peace and tranquility. Do you suppose this might have something to do with being in my Mom's womb or something? I would love to know.
Thanks and good night,
Tate
You are feeling the serenity and total security of being completely cocooned in your Mommy's love. You needn't look for any deeper meaning than that. It is the state of happiness to which all ABs aspire and rarely discover. You feel warmed and protected by your mommy's attentions. Do little babies seek any deeper meaning in their happiness? No, Dear, they do not because they are supremely content, just as you are. You are a very lucky baby, Sweetiepie. Love your mommy with all your heart, Pumpkin. Mommies like yours are very rare and need to know that their baby loves them just as much as they adore their babies.
Sleep well, Sugar! Mommy loves you!
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Hi, Mommy!
Baby so sorry to hear you were not well, but very happy you are feeling better. Baby loves Mommy ttttttttttthhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssss much!! (Sends Mommy a great big happy baby hug and lots of butterfly kissies)
Love and hugs,
Baby Stevie, your wet toddler
Mama Jenn
Dear Mamma Jen,
I have an interest in psychiatry, but I'm an AB who's confused. This is going to take a while to explain, so just bare with me. I've left my shrink, and my therapist, because they were making me feel that i was being forced to do something I didn't want to do. They've planted every feeling of guilt in my head conceivable. They made me so self-conscious that I have to think twice about going outside in my diapers. I think, "Oh, my god. People can see them. People can see them." I happen to be blind, so I can't tell who's looking at them. I'm getting to the point where I really don't care who's looking at them, but sometimes I get a case of anxiety relapse, and I have to tell myself to relax and to not think about who's looking at me. Guilt has gotten so bad sometimes that I even question why I'm doing this. I ask myself, "Is this helping me? Did someone put this in to my head, and I'm just enjoying it?" Nothing wrong with that. I sort of tell myself that I wasn't this way befor!
e, but I believe that these things have surfaced, because of an inner subconscious need to be loved. My SYNICLE subconscious says to me that doing this will keep me from growing and developing mentally, but the good nurturing part of my subconscious says to me that this is what I enjoy, and I can not have the love and feeling that I get when I do this ripped away from me. Will I stop developing mentally or emotionally if I continue to be a baby. I don't want to grow. I want to be a baby for ever. LOL What did I do to have all this subterfuge floating around inside me. In order for you to understand what I mean I'll have to tell you about my life. Here's a letter I wrote to my shrinks.
Where should I start? I suppose that I should start off by confessing/explaining a few things. First of all, I would like to tell you all something. Ever since I was a child, my grandfather drank a lot. I was always afraid of when he would come home yelling, throwing things, and, swearing. This reflection is not meant to put down my grandfather in any way. I think I was raised the best way anyone knew how, given my condition. But, I do however think there was a lack of love and, comfort somewhere. It's very difficult to get in to the whole thing, but I think it was because of the drinking, that I was never held by my grandfather, and, because of the unstable relationship shared by my grandparents that destroyed my hopes of growing up like a normal kid. True, I was normal on the outside, excluding the fact of my being blind, but on the inside, I was screaming for love. I did all the normal things a typical kid would do, rode my bike, swam, told fart jokes, very bad ones at that!
, but I lived my life as a perfectly happy little boy. At least that's how it seemed to people in society. But, what they did not know is that inside I felt like there was something missing from my life. LOVE. True, I lived my life just as anybody else would do. But, I was also hurt in other ways.
First of all, I had know friends in my neighborhood to go too when things got bad, or when I needed someone to talk too, even if the conversation were one about sex to one of homework, I had no friends to listen. No friends to be there when I needed them to just be there for me. True, I did have friends at my school, and, a social worker, Ms. P....., whom I owe a lot for listening to me. But, all those things didn't make for the weekends, where I would come home, wondering what was going to happen next. Like if my grandfather was going to yell.
I'm going to jump ahead just for a minute just to tell you of an experience I had in my later childhood which relates to this aspect of growing up. I forget what it was about, but someone asked what I did when my grandfather came home from the club, or from work. My mother said, "He goes and, hides under a rock like the rest of 'em." This sort of humiliated me. But, that's exactly what I did.! I would go down stairs just before my grandfather would come in to the house. I don't know if it was the feeling or thought that he was going to yell that made me go down there. But, nevertheless my thought/instinct usually paid off. For no sooner did my grandfather get in to the house, he'd start yelling at my grandmother, or start complaining about something that wasn't right around the house or just in general.
Another thing which may not have any thing to do with the way I grew up, but I think in a way it contributed somewhat to why I'm the way I am now. I remember ever since I was a child and, heard Mario Lanza sing Torrna Surriento, I thought to myself, "God, I wish I could do that." Ever since then, I sang Mario Lanza's songs. It was really kinda throat singing, but when my grandparents heard me, there was no stopping them. Whenever my picture would make it in the newspaper, I thought it was good to make people proud. As a result, I underwent a tremendous amount of pressure from my grand parents. It wasn't that they would force me to do it, but back then I didn't know that I had any choice in the matter.
As we move forward in my life, other things happened to make me the way I am now. During the summer I met a friend at a carnival being held by a church. I don't remember which church, but, he and I became good friends.
We later became involved in the sail for sight competition. I remember sitting in the boat, just sailing along having the time of my life. After the race, we decided to go to bush gardens to celebrate. I couldn't have been more happier.!
As we were in our hotel, I decided to take a bath after we had gone for a swim in the outdoor pool they had. I had gotten undressed and, was relaxing in the bathtub when father R..... came in to the bathroom. I was use to people seeing me naked, because at my house, there was no privacy. When someone had to use the bathroom, they'd just walk in and, do there business and, then leave. When I was done washing, I got out of the bathtub, and, started to dry off. Just then, I noticed that father R..... was doing something. He was flapping a towel, making a snapping noise. I thought this was very neat and, asked him how did he do that. He said, "I'll show you." He got behind me, and proceeded to show me how to snap the towel. I could never prove it, but as he was showing me how to do this, I felt him pressing his torso against my naked behind. I don't know what his intentions were, but if he wanted to do anything to me there was nothing stopping him. He was in the perfect position. !
He had my hands, and there was nothing stopping him from doing what he wanted to do. He didn't do anything to me, that is, not that I could remember. He just let me get dressed. The rest of the vacation was paradise, and when we finally got home, I missed him so much.
Later, I found out that he had gotten banned from the church, because he had performed acts of a sexual nature on children. The thing that hurt me the most, was he could do this, and pretend to be my friend at the same time.
I
remembered the time I was on a roller coaster I had never been on before. I was really scared, because when I was little, my relatives would trick me in to getting on roller coasters. Roller coasters that scared me. When father R..... and I were on it, and it was about to start up the hill he said, "TRUST ME." I never forgot that. It still hurts to know that I thought of him as my best friend, and he was really a monster.
Well, I guess that's all there is to tell. I grew up like this. I want all of you to know about me, because when you read this I will be gone, living a life of my own.
I have infantilism. For the psychiatrists/therapists who knew me at your facility, that just doesn't in tale wearing and using diapers. My diaper wearing isn't a fetish. I like to be treated like a baby. So, I don't just where diapers, I drink from a baby bottle, suck on a pacifier, and where baby clothes. I do everything that a baby does. I'm sorry that I didn't tell you about this, but when I discussed this with the Dr. who first saw me, she said that I just couldn't do this, so I decided not to discuss it at all.
I'm sorry, but when I was given medicine which was said to control my fetish, I just stopped believing in your facility.
I am truly sorry to say that. But, just remember that that's only my opinion. (Smiling To myself.) Just think of the countless millions, billions of people that you've helped in the past.! Don't worry, if someone I know is in need I won't hesitate to recommend them to your facility. But, I won't recommend anyone with infantilism.
I will close out with this. I no longer want your help. Sorry to say it that way, but that's the way it is. You can consider me no longer on your clientele. And if your worried about what effects not taking the medicine will have on me, then stop worrying, because I haven't been taking the medicine ever since you gave it to me. I only took it once, and then concluded that you can't replace love with just a simple little pill.
Jennifer, I love you, and will call my grand parents house and get your number. Your the only one who I trust and your the only one who's shown that no matter what the shrinks think, you'll always love me, your brother.
Granmmom, please ask the insurance company to forgive me for not letting them know two weeks in advance. I'm going on with my life. Hopefully it will be better than my old one. I love you all. Especially my sister. I'll drop you all a line soon.
Jennifer, say hello to Nathan for me, and remember that your baby brother loves you both. Buhbuy, big sister, and have a nice day.
Everybody, I'm sorry it has to be this way, but I can see no other way out of it. I hope you all will be happy, and live your lives to the fullest. Ya never know, I might just be back. And that isn't just maybe. So long, and goodbye. I'll give ya a call sometime. Seeyas around.
I never thought about being treated like a baby, but for some reason I get aroused by babies wetting or messing in their diapers. Why? Because, I like the helplessness that comes with that and want to be that way also. To sort of get off track a little, I saw something on TV the other day that described all my symptoms of depression, anxiety, thinking I'm the lowest thing on Earth. Would you or do you recommend me going to someone like that. I don't like tearing my need to be a baby right out of my brain. What do you think would happen if I did something like that. I love being a baby. Am I doing this to get away from depression? Yes. But, would a roundabout way such as dealing with my problem in getting rid of stress solve this too? Would living my life to the fullest in that way, with no stress, higher self esteem and higher confidence level solve my problems, or would I still have the need to be a baby. I don't like the prospect of trying to destroy myself. I like being a b!
aby and the attention that comes with it, but I feel like my doing this is criminal. People say that living your life to the fullest is great, an that by going to this person will solve all my problems of depression, anxiety, Etc. I refuse to walk the path that society wants. I will tell you that by being a baby, that is when I'm not frightened away by my sinicle evil genius Guilt, and Inhibition, I enjoy all of the feeling I had when I was a baby, and then some. I don't blame anybody or anything anymore, I just like being a baby.
Sorry to make this really long. but I think you can help me and I can help others with getting rid of their guilt. The other day I read something that threw me in to a tailspin until I convinced myself to the contrary Could you type in to a search box infant potty training, trickle treat, or elimination communication. I'd rather not go in to how it works, because it's explained to you on the web sites. What conclusion I've come up with is that this a learned behavior. A baby isn't just going to hold in his urine when he or she is born. In the womb a baby empties it's bladder and bowels, after which the mother deposits both of their wastes in to the toilet. A baby will do this even after it is born unless trained to do otherwise. I was watching a show where a baby was in an incubator, it urinated, because it had to go and was not trained to do otherwise. So you can go freely in your diapers, because that is what you did when you were first born.
Baby Jamie
You've had a terrible time haven't you? Your story is so sad that it makes Mama want to weep. Just as your letter was long and descriptive, my reply must be long as well, because there is so, so much that I need to tell you.
Your psychiatrist and therapist were obviously not the right people to help you. Should you ever need to seek professional help with your problems again, go to a sexual therapist/specialist. He or she will be trained in infantilism and it's treatment. Honey, in a vast number of cases, infantilism does not have the sexual component or fixation that would truly qualify it as a paraphilia. In other words Sweetiepie, infantilism doesn't always manifest itself in a sexual way. Even when it does, the condition preceded puberty and the pleasures of wetting and pooping in one's diaper become sexualized because of the eroticization of the pubic area and buttocks during puberty. Honeybunch, true infantilism such as you describe cannot be treated with a mere pill. For all practical purposes, it cannot be cured. Current psychiatric protocols call for treatment of an infantilist by helping them manage their lives better and to reduce guilt and stress to a minimum.
As for wearing your diapers in public, they are not as noticeable as it might seem. If you wear a sweat suit, the potentially embarrassing bulges disappear and much of the sound is muffled. ABs also like them because the feel of the fabric is much like the feel of an infant's fleecy sleepers. The crinkling noise that disposable diapers make must sound as loud as a thunderstorm to you, because the loss of sight usually has the effect of enhancing the other senses like hearing to compensate. If you are really paranoid about your diapers sound, then use cloth diapers with one of the ultrasoft, "silent", plastic pants. Mama Jenn's baby has gone to the grocery store innumerable times wearing disposable diapers under his street clothes and no one ever noticed. The sound of the other shoppers talking, walking, getting groceries creates a background noise which covers up the crinkly noise perfectly. This is also true of a Mall. Even if some sharp eared person were to hear it, they would reject the association with diapers because the very idea of an adult wearing disposable diapers is unthinkable to the vast majority of people.
Sweetbottoms, you implied that infantilism is criminal in nature. Nothing could be further from the truth. ABs want to be loved, cherished, protected and cared for exactly like a baby. If such an emotional need was criminal, then the entire would should be imprisoned and guarded by psychopaths who have lost the need to feel loved! Helen Ready wrote a song many years ago that had a refrain "At night we're only children, children one and all..."
Honeybunch, one of the surprising truths about people is that they never really grow up. While it is true that most people stop maturing at a later age than most ABs, they are still children at heart, especially men. Ask any nurse in a hospital about how their male patients behave in general and they will have one response; "Men are just big babies!"
Most wives think the same thing about their husbands. Men are macho as long as they aren't hurt or sick, but the minute illness strikes them, they turn into big babies. Infantilist may have more intense emotional needs to be mothered, but at least they are aware of themselves and tend to control themselves better than the average man. They KNOW that they are big babies and are better able to confine childish behavior to appropriate venues like their bedroom or nursery. Consider your male role model, your Grandfather. Didn't you write that he would come home cursing, yelling and throwing things? That sounds like a superannuated two-year-old having a full blown temper tantrum.
ABs frequently look at real babies (somewhat jealously) as role models for what they would like to be. People are taught at a very young age that loss of control over one's bladder and bowels is to be truly helpless. Behind the initial judgement, there is the implication that someone, perhaps a mother, is caring for the helpless person in the most basic ways. This idea has even infiltrated our legal system, where bowel and bladder incontinence in a person who is being evaluated for mental illness is used as a yardstick for being able to handle one's affairs with adult competency.
As you have correctly surmised, continence is a learned behavior. Granted there is a period in the life of a young child where potty training is easy, but the number of child abuse cases where children have been kept in diapers well into their teenaged years and are completely incontenant is large enough to support the proposition that incontinence is a somewhat "natural" state in the absence of potty training.
Guilt is an AB's worse enemy. The seeds for intense, mind-destroying guilt are sown during the preschool and Kindergarten years when the other children savagely attack any child in their midst that displays "babyish" behavior. Having just gotten out of diapers themselves, they are terrified that their own inner needs to be babied by their mothers will be discovered. The worse bedwetter in the class will often be the biggest bully because his guilt and fears are so great. Thus small children present a united front against a babyish child and ostracize them so they won't be accused of being "babies" by association. This causes the proto-AB to believe that he or she is the only person in the world with his or her orientation and needs. I suspect that the number of boys and men who have some infantile needs is several orders of magnitude larger than the number of practicing ABs.
Sugar, being an AB is harmless. Aside from occasional cases of diaper rash, it won't endanger your health. It is non-addicting and non-polluting. It doesn't lead to violence, nor does it cause harm to another person. There is no scripture in the Holy Scriptures of Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism that condemns it as sinful or immoral. The single case I know of where infantilism is condemned is the "Pro-Life Activist's Encyclopedia" published by American Life League where infantilism is defined with a totally reckless regard for the truth and with the apparent intent to characterize infantilists as deviant sociopathic monsters who prey on children. (It can be found at URL: http://www.rlbm.tripod.com/ALL_Encyclopedia/encyc120.txt A copy of the relevant text is at the bottom of this reply).
Sweetbuns, I hope this helped you feel better about yourself. There is nothing to feel guilty about being an AB. You are a good person who merely wants the same feeling of love and serenity that you had as a baby. You deserve to be loved and to feel worthy of being loved. Your psychiatric treatment was an ill-advised attempt to make you feel guilty about a subject which made the therapist uncomfortable. It's okay to wear diapers and plastic pants and even wet and mess in them, Sweetie! It's okay to drink formula from a baby bottle, eat baby food, wear baby clothes and sleep in a crib if you wish. Be as happy as you can and try not to feel guilty about your need to return to innocent helplessness where you are loved merely for yourself. It's not sick to want these things for yourself. Above all, remember that you are not alone in your needs.
BIG Hug and a Kiss on the forehead!
Mama Jenn
Excerpt from "Pro-Life Activist's Encyclopedia" published by American Life League
Infantilism.
Introduction. Infantilism is a perversion that is entirely separate
in nature from pedophilia, although the two may be practiced by the same
person.
Organized infantilists commonly wear baby clothes ÄÄ especially
diapers ÄÄ and urinate and defecate in them. Many infantilists then
participate in "scat games," smearing the feces all over their own bodies
and the bodies of others. Spanking and "bondage and discipline" are also
favorite infantilist activities.
The catalog of a typical infantilist group, the Sausalito Diaper Pail
Fraternity, claims that "[Member's] interests are varied, but primarily in
diapers, plastic or rubber pants, wet pants, bedwetting, infantilism,
little boy and little girl fantasies, humiliation, spanking, discipline,
domination, enemas, W/S [water sports ÄÄ playing in urine], cross-dressing
[transvestitism], S/M [sado-masochism], and catheters."[6]
Note the infantilist's extremely heavy emphasis on homosexual
activities, including transvestitism, insertion of objects up the anus,
torture, "water sports," and even the use of catheters.
A Good Infantilist. Mississippi abortionist Milan D. Chepko, who
killed children at the amusingly-named New Woman Medical Center, is an
example of an good upstanding infantilist.
Chepko was arrested and charged in Federal court with forcing minors
to engage in "kiddie porn" movies, producing the movies, conspiracy with
others to produce the movies, and shipping them across state lines. The
movies involved children of four years of age in many cases being sodomized
by adults, having sex with adult men and women, and also depicted oral sex
between men and very young boys.[7]
According to an affidavit filed in Federal court, Chepko's van
contained evidence that he and his correspondents "... are members or
supporters of the National and International Diaper Pail Foundation, in
which the members are infantilists who enjoy wearing diapers, defecating in
the diapers, and smearing the defecation on the body. They are also
interested in the defecation of small children."[7]
[6] Doug Oakley. "Diaperful of Love: The Shocking True Story of
Sausalito's Adult Diaper Fraternity."
[7] "Just a Coincidence?" Focus on the Family
Mama Jenn
what is your opion on a person wearing rubberpants and sleeping on a baby mattress ,and if there are any other people that do that?
rubberpants
Many ABs like to sleep in either rubber or plastic pants, just as the ones who can afford it sleep in adult-sized cribs with baby-style mattresses. You a certainly not alone in your sleeping arrangements. What do I think? Darling, I think that you're behaving like a sweet, lovable adult baby. Since you are an adult baby, your behavior and need to sleep with the accoutrements of a baby are perfectly normal.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Dear Mama,
Me hopes you iz feewin' bedder! BIG HUGS an' KISSES!!!!!
xoxoxoxo
Baby Kayli
Thank you, Darling! When a mommy is not feeling well, she likes *special* sweet little notes like yours from her loved ones. Mommies need love too!
XOXOXOXO
Mama Jenn
hay moma jenn what do you do when you mom and dad kick you out of the house cause you like diapers i love my diapers im not giving them up
baby nelson
Mama is so sad that you were kicked out of your house. Mama assumes that you are of legal age to fend for yourself, since Mama has a policy of not answering questions posted by minors (for legal reasons). If you are underaged, you can seek assistance and shelter from government agencies that protect minors. Abandonment of a minor is a felony in most states.
If you are not a minor, you can seek temporary shelter from the Salvation Army or other charitable organizations. Do you have a job? If so, perhaps you can find a roommate or friend to share rental expenses. If you don't have a High School diploma, other government agencies can help you get one so that you can find a job.
Sweetheart, what your parents did to you was wrong; a deep need to wear diapers does not make you a pervert, but a person who needs love and affection. Mama wishes she could offer you more help, but you're going to have to act like a big boy and try to take care of yourself.
Mama loves you and hopes that things will work out for you soon. There is an old saying that "God loves and cares for children and drunks..." Adult babies are some of the sweetest and most lovable children on Earth. God loves you, Honey! Everything will be okay in time.
Hugs and Kisses for her baby boy,
Mama Jenn
Dear mama Jen
I am so sorry to hear about your accident I would like to wish you the best of luck and a speedy recovery
I've been enjoying your web site for over a year now and when I read the article from Scallyhater I thought
I wanted share my personal experiences with you and your readers. I first realized my love for diapers at about age five. To make a long story short, my wonderful wife found out about my love for diapers when as a joke we planed to get revenge on a friend that embarrassed another friend by pulling down her top in front of a bunch of people, the plan was to get him down and diaper him at a party. I put on a diaper and my girl friend, (now wife) took a picture of me, any way on to the point I was always afraid some one would find out about my wearing diapers, some years later some one said some thing that made me think they knew and this really bothered me and made me think my wife told some one, any way a few years later we sought help from a therapist she diagnosed me as suffering from depression so I started taking medicine (50 mg of Zoloft) per day. This has helped me out very much I no longer worry about who might know I like to wear diapers and I am a lot less short tempered this has helped my marriage immensely and made my life much better
Jon Jon
Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with us. It takes a lot of courage to come out and publicly admit one is an AB. I am delighted to hear that you have such an understanding and supportive wife. Many ABs, including my own husband, discovered that their impatience and anger against the world disappeared once they admitted to themselves that they were ABs. I am also pleased that you had the good sense to seek professional help for your chronic depression and that your therapist was able to prescribe a medication which seems to have alleviated your depression. Hopefully, the day will come that ABs as a group will be accepted by the public for the good natured and loving people that they are, rather than be judged by individual prejudices.
Mama is so pleased to read how happy you are and how good your life has become.
With Love,
Mama Jenn
Dear Mama Jenn.
I am an adult baby from Australia and think your web page is excellent. My wife knows about my fetish but cannot understand and we dont talk about it. She cannot reconcile her big strong leader of a husband subjecting himself to an infantile state. It is not the image she wants to condone. How do I get over this problem. Do you still recognise your husbands masculinity despite in infantile needs?
I also have a desperate urge to be put into a large English nanny type pram. I do hear about them at all on the web or in magazines. Any ideas from anybody how an English Nanny pram could be converted somehow to fit a slim adult about five ft eight tall? with thanks,
Dear Mama Jenn.I am an adult baby from Australia and think your web page is excellent. My wife knows about my fetish but cannot understand and we dont talk about it. She cannot reconcile her big strong leader of a husband subjecting himself to an infantile state. It is not the image she wants to condone. How do I get over this problem. Do you still recognise your husbands masculinity despite in infantile needs?
I also have a desperate urge to be put into a large English nanny type pram. I do hear about them at all on the web or in magazines. Any ideas from anybody how an English Nanny pram could be converted somehow to fit a slim adult about five ft eight tall?
with thanks,
Enjay
It could be said that the higher a man's position and power, the more he needs a respite wherein his powers and position are removed from him so he can rest from the physical toils, emotional travails and political troubles of adulthood. My husband, like you, displays all the outward appearances of a fully functional alpha male, while keeping his baby needs separate and well hidden at home. In every way, my husband acts as the Lord of his demesne who protects our household from harm. When my husband is in baby mode, I treat him as I would any baby. While that I know that in an emergency, he could return to his normal masculine self immediately, I don't ask him to act with any sort of maturity until he is ready to assume his proper role again. (Usually in a few hours at most.)
One approach is to gently inform your wife that your need to be babied balances the powers of authority that you wield as an adult, Your needs are not those of a pervert, but the needs of one who occasionally needs to escape from his heavy responsibilities and to allow someone he trusts implicitly to act as his temporary guardian and caregiver while he doffs the mantle of personal power and accepts a role of utter helplessness and dependence. Diapers are the penultimate symbol of helplessness, which is one of the reasons that they are so important to this particular form of roleplay.
Adult-sized prams can usually be purchased from specialty companies that sell equipment for disabled people. While the sizes of these prams are generally limited to large children, a man of slight build with a height of 5'8" should be able to be accommodated.
Love,
Mama Jenn
mamma jenn
I think I want to start wearing and using disposable diapers but I don't know. is it worth it, are they nice and do they get squishy and slippery inside when you use them because thats what I want.
needtoknow
While Mama can't answer from personal experience, she can relate her husband/baby's experiences. Cloth diapers are more comfortable overall, but they are expensive and you will have to find a place to wash and dry them. If you aren't going to wash them immediately, you will need a large adult-sized diaper pail.
Almost all disposable diapers have a hydrophilic gel that absorb many times it's weight in fluid. When they become completely soaked, they are far more "squishy" than any cloth diaper.
When you ask for slippery, I presume that you are talking about having a slippery tush from pooping in your diaper. If you are talking about slippery from pee, disposables are very slippery when fully soaked. In the rear area, they tend to be more slippery and less adhesive than a cloth diaper, because the continuously woven barrier sheet has no threads to add to friction between your bottom and the diaper.
There are many disposable diapers on the market, but most ABs like Attends, Tranquility (heavy incontinence - tan color) or (uggh) purple Molicares for their absorbency.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Hi mama jenn,
Thank you so much for this privelige!!!! I am a 31 yr old adult baby and I have lost two girlfriends after exposing the AB side of myself, my question has two parts....1- How would you suggest bringing the subject up to a woman?....and 2- Do you know of any willing babysitters and where I can reach them for correspondence?
Thank you so much for helping me....sometimes being an adult baby feels like the lonliest thing on earth and a woman brave enough to be on the net with her man is a welcome sight. You are to be commended!!!!!!
Diaperboy
Mama has covered the subject of how to introduce the idea of your diaper wearing many, many times in past columns. Sweetheart, go through my archived letters and replies and you will find detailed instructions on dealing with your girlfriends.
There are a number of babysitters listed on our Website, although most of them are "professionals". You could also try advertizing in the free personals section of our Website as well as other Websites. DPF publishes a magazine for ABs which has extensive personal listings for ABs, mommies and babysitters.
I hope this was of some help.
Love,
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn
Why does my dick (penis) get wet when I pee in my diaper? And, when I try to put on a diaper, my dick gets straight and it wont bend, why? Is there a way you can stop the urin smell come out of the diaper?
DICKey
Your wee-wee gets all wet when you make a pee-pee in your dypees because your pee-pee splashes all around it when you wet your dypee.
Your wee-wee gets stiff when you are diapered because you like all the sensations that a nice, clean, dypee brings. Every mother and babysitter knows that little babies get stiff wee-wees too at dypee changes, so you aren't the only baby who gets them! You see, Honey, your wee-wee is filled with tissue that is very much like a sponge. When you get excited, it gets filled with blood and it gets as hard as a water-filled balloon. But when the excitement is over, the blood goes back into your body and your wee-wee deflates just like a balloon with nothing in it.
Most of the bad smell of pee comes from old sour pee from a dypee that hasn't been changed. Changing your dypee soon after you make a pee-pee is the best thing to do. If baby drinks lots and lots of water and pees frequently, the chemical which turns sour is diluted and there isn't enough to make your dypee smell bad. The other thing that you can do is to make sure that your cloth dypees are really clean when they come out of the wash and perhaps put in some white vinegar in the final rinse. Baby should have regular baths every day and his dypee area should be thoroughly cleaned at every dypee change.
Clean plastic panties also can help control odor until your dypees are changed.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn,
I love this colum, but i was wondering why there have been no updates in the past month?
Kara
Mama has been very, very ill and has been recuperating from a number of illnesses. Her left hip/femur have been replaced and she is able to walk again, albeit with a cane. Mama is sorry that she vanished so suddenly from the scene, but her fractured leg came as a complete surprise to her.
Thank you for your concern,
Mama Jenn
Note from Babylover: Welcome back Mama
Dear Mama Jenn:
Do you know of any way my Mommy Mistress can have my weiner permanently shrunken back to baby-size? She says all it is good for is wetting my diapers, and as long as she has any say I will always be in diapers, so it may as well just stay baby size. She says it will be easier to use my diapers without naughty erections to get in the way.
Baby Crinklepants
Perhaps your mommy isn't aware that even tiny babies have erections at times. As for reduction of your penis to baby size, there exist some very powerful hormonal treatments that can reduce the size of your testes to infantile size, but they won't affect the size of your penis, Sweetheart! These treatments are extremely dangerous and often lead to cancer of the testes. As long as baby enjoys being diapered, occasional erections are inevitable.
Hugs and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn:
I don't know if you can answer my question or not, but I am trying different brands of disposible diapers. Could you tell me how Walgreens Overnight diapers are? I like a diaper with a good amount of bulk. Besides Molicare, are there any others you can think of? I really don't like cloth diapers--I think disposibles feel much better. Thank you.
Just Wondering
One of my numerous AB friends says that Walgreen's Overnights are comfortable, but not especially bulky. Tranquility makes a good disposable diaper which may fulfil your needs.
Love and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Dear mama jen
i have been a fan of your column for as long as i've known this site.i enjoy being an AB and have been an AB since i was about three. recently i have been considering professinal help. do you know anything about this?. is it wise?
a reply would be much appreciated.
keep up the good work!
scallyhater
I would only advise you to get professional help if you feel that the AB side of your personality is causing you to be unhappy. Infantilism is a harmless human psychological variation that should give no one any reason for shame, although guilt is a very common psychological problem among ABs. If you feel the need for professional councilor, then I'd advise that you seek a psychologist or psychiatrist with a specialty in sexual problems, as they will be more familiar with infantilism and be more willing to help you. If the professional that you find is anti-AB or is not helpful, get another professional councilor. You have a right to unbiased, helpful professional advice.
Good luck, Sweetheart,
Love,
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn:
How long can my Mistress Mommy leave a foley catheter in place, robbing me of all bladder control and dribbling into my diapers 24/7? I like the total loss of control and the helplessness; and she likes having the power. Do many other adult babies use catheters to keep them incontinent for real?
Crinklepants
Yes, Dearest, other adult babies use catheters to make them mechanically incontinent via a foley. Despite their (and your wishes) to cause permanent urinary incontinence, long term foley use rarely causes other than short-term incontenence, although complications of (foley) catheter use may include: urinary tract and/or kidney infections, blood infections (septicemia), urethral injury, skin breakdown, bladder stones, and blood in the urine (hematuria). After many years of catheter use, bladder cancer may also develop.
The simplest method, i.e., withdrawal of potty privileges with enforced diaper wearing, is the best technique from a medical standpoint. Eat lots of watermelon and wet your diapers the moment that you feel the slightest urge to go. Drink eight to twelve glasses of water a day while you are retraining your bladder sphincter to utter flaccidity. Within two to four weeks, you'll be wetting your diapers without warning or control.
Love and Kisses,
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn,
I sent you an email, about 3 months ago, seeking advice on how to better schedule my toddler (Cody) for his afternoon nap. So you know, I wanted to give this new schedule some time before responding back to you. For the most part, this new setup has been successful, but initiailly came at a price, namely Mommy's sanity (laughs). I'll warn you as this letter is long, but here is an inventory of what I did and how well it turned out.
I chose the time that you suggested (12:30 to 2:00) and also selected his "quiet room" to be the place where he gets his naps. I have a friend who works at a day care center and asked to see the mats their children sleep on in the afternoon (under the guise that I was buying one for another friend). I thought it would be cute to get a mat of similar quality, but in Cody's size. I eventualy found one that was a little bit thicker and fit his dimensions. This mat was placed in Cody's "quiet room" the Friday before we decided to start his nap training. Sufficed to say, when Cody went to his "quiet room" to calm down that night, he wasn't too pleased to see it (laughs).
First, you were right about Cody being fussy to this idea, as he is pretty active. It did help that I introduced the idea to him gradually (as children crave a stable schedule) and phrased it in terms that were understandable and mattered to him. I reminded him that he was only 3.5 years old (his baby age) and that getting a nap in the afternoon would help him grow bigger and stronger and also make him feel better. Thus, he would be physically and mentally able to return to his playtime (work) and do it better. Because of his increased productivity, he might eventually get asked by the older children (his senior-level co-workers) at his nursery school to come over and play with them (help them with a work-related problem).
Second, although he knew he couldn't argue with the nap, early on Cody did everything in his power to drag the situation out. Not unlike a child that doesn't want to take a bath and then later doesn't want to get out of the bathtub. As he wears thick trainer pants during the day and typically only wears a diaper when sleeping, this situation required him to wear a diaper. There were delaying tactics here as he would save up pee-pees and poo-poos and release them into his diaper minutes after I put it on him. Forcing me to use up time to change his diaper. Tactics like this frazzled my nerves, but I ultimately knew he was simply challenging my authority. Sometimes he tried to get punished so as not to have to sleep right then right there. My response to this was to make him get his rest during his nap time, anyway, and then properly punish him during his fun/play time. That brought this to an end, quickly. All in all, sometime the best a Mommy can do is be firm,
presistent and most of all... loving.
Third, it takes a child time to adjust to a new sleep schedule. I was firm only about Cody staying on the mat and resting. I didn't expect him to fall asleep instantly or even in the first week. As he had his comfort items near him (blankie, teddy bear and lullaby CD), these would eventually help reinforce the notion that he now sleeps during this time. It took about a week, but he eventually got into a groove of sleeping, relatively well, during his nap period. Now, when he wakes up his diaper is removed and he is cleaned up (if need be). His trainer pants and play clothes go back on and he is rewarded with a sippy cup of apple juice and animal crackers, before returning to nursery school. From what I can tell, he does appear to feel and look better.
Thanks again for your advice as it was most helpful and helped make things go more smoothly.
MamaJerri
Thank you for giving us an update on Cody. I know that getting him used to a new regime must have been a real trial for you, but it seems to have worked out swimmingly. Your idea of punishing him after his nap for his naughty pre-nap behaviors was inspired!
I know that there are hundreds, if not thousands, of adult baby boys who would give anything to have a loving mommy like yourself. You are so patient and kind, that you are a wonder! Thank you for setting such a great example for parents of ABs!
Mama Jenn
Mama Jenn:
how do watermelon really work and how are you supose to use them do they have to be dry or wet
bedwetter
Watermelon has a natural diuretic (a chemical that makes more pee than normal).. All you have to do is eat it.
Love,
Mama Jenn
