Ask Mama Jenn - continued




4/29/00
Dear Mama Jenn,
Do you change wet nappies and wouild you baby me
James

Dear little Jim-Jim,
Of course Mama changes her baby's wet or soiled nappies! Good mommy's don't let their babies' sit in dirty dipees longer than is absolutely necessary. Otherwise, their sweet little bottoms get a rash. Dearest, Mama Jenn has her own baby to look after as well as her career. She's not a babysitter! There are lots and lots of places to find AB babysitters on the Internet, Sweetheart.
Good Luck, Sweet Bottoms!
Mama Jenn



4/29/00
Mama Jenn,
i want to be a little girl ??can you help
Samantha

Dear Little Samantha,
Mommy's can do a lot of truly wonderful things, but they can't change a little boy into a little girl. If you want to play that you're a little girl, then you don't need help from me. All you need is your imagination. Of course, a nice pink Empire-style dress with layers of crinoline and lace might help you think of yourself as a little girl. A matching pair of rhumba plastic pants and Baby Jane shoes might help too. Fix yourself up a sweet, adorable little girl nursery in a spare room and paint it in a delicate rose with off-white trim. There are instructions for making your own nursery furniture at:
http://p67.kinneret.co.il/abworld/stuff/diy.htm

There are also many fine companies in Britain which make little girl clothes in adult sizes. Mummy Hazel, for example, has been making high quality Adult Babywear for fourteen years and has a photo CD catalog of her creations; nappies, pull-on pants, trainer pants, nappy knickers, popper-pants, frilly knickers, bubble rompers, party frocks, day-wear, night-wear, outdoor-wear, bonnets, bibs, mittens, bootees, and dummies. She also has two fully equipped nurseries available for short term letting with Adult Baby clothes available for hire. Visitors will be spoon and bottle fed, & soiling ones nappies is not permitted, although wetting is permitted. Mummy Hazel's Website is at: (
http://www.hbenterprise.co.uk/adultbabies/)

And there you have it, Pumpkin! How to set up your little girl nursery, where to buy sweet dresses, panties and nappies to fit you, as well as a nursery where you can go on holiday and be your sweet little girl self while Mummy Hazel takes care of you! Have fun playing dress up, Sweetiepie!
Mama Jenn



4/29/00
Hi Mamma Jenn,
I'm 43 and love to wear diapers. I can't tell my wife because I know she would not accept it. I do have a girlfriend who thinks it's great that I enjoy wearing diapers, and she love to play mommy and baby with me. Should I try to tell my wife or just leave it the way it is. Also can you give me any idea were I can find adult baby potties.
Thank You
BabyG

Sweetheart,
Mama doesn't approve of babies or adults breaking their promises or vows. That's what having a girlfriend on the side when you're married means; that you're breaking a solemn promise. If you and your "girlfriend" don't play ANY ADULT GAMES together, then I suppose it's alright and that you probably shouldn't upset your wife by telling her about your babysitter. Having a female friend who merely changes your wet and soiled diapers and gives you your bottle is exactly the same as having a babysitter. There's nothing wrong with having a chaste, loving and pampering babysitter at any age. However, playing baby is one thing, playing around on your wife is quite another!

Diddums REALLY want adult baby potties? If so, check the Web for Hospital Supplies, Toilet Chairs or go to any large medical supply store. If "floor model" adult potty-training chairs exist (Mama found baby style Adult Car Seats the other day on the Web), then they would be found under devices for the severely handicapped. You could also look at camping supply stores for a Porta-Potty.

If your girlfriend and you play Adult Games, it's time to get a lawyer. You'll probably need one soon. Wives are often forgiving, but seldom stupid. Your ruse won't hold up forever.
Sincerely,
Mama Jenn



4/26/00
Hi mommy Jenn
I need help. I'm a teen baby but I dont know how to tell them. My daddy will freak out. But my mommy will understandwhat should I do? Please help me
Goku Star
P.S. I love your background music my I save it.

Dear Goku Star,
Little babies shouldn't make adult decisions that might upset everyone's "wa" (harmony). Since you know that your Mommy will understand, tell your Mommy when Daddy isn't home and let her make the decision about what to tell Daddy and when. (She may decide that he doesn't need to know.) Sweetheart, your Mommy has known your Daddy lots longer than you have and in ways that you don't understand. Trust your Mommy to make the right decision, Honeybunch.

As for the background music. You can download the midi of the background music at our wav and sound page. Glad you like it.
Mama Jenn


4/26/00
Mama Jenn,
Can you tell me at the age of 48, is it wrong to feel like this. I mean wanting to wear nappies
James

Honeybunch,

Tell me at what age it's mandated that someone should stop needing to feel comfortable and loved and perhaps I can answer your question. Wet or dirty diapers don't cause car accidents, accidental shootings, contribute to cancer of any type, nor do they damage the brain, liver, kidneys or heart. At worst, they're smelly and can cause diaper rash. In other words Darling, wearing diapers is a rather harmless play or pastime which hurts no one.

Sweetheart, There are no set rules for when a person should feel or need something and your physiological age has nothing to do with your inner needs.

Sugarplum, everyone has an outer self and an inner self. The outer self is what we project to the everyday world as we make our livings, pay our bills, etc., but our inner selves reflect the emotional needs and desires that we've carried or developed over a lifetime. Your innerself can be a baby, wanting the lost love and freedom of babyhood.

Wearing diapers make babies, toddlers and many adults feel warm and secure. What's wrong with that? Toddlers love diapers because it feels good to wet them and they can "go" whenever they wish. Also, wearing diapers demonstrates that their mothers are still close to them, to love, coddle and change them. Babies don't have to earn love, they are well aware that they are lovable in and of themselves and diapers are the ultimate symbol of babyhood.

Dearest, adults who wear diapers are subconsciously bringing all these good feelings into their lives by wearing diapers. They're giving themselves a message that they are inherently good, lovable people who deserve to feel secure as well as be coddled and pampered. What's wrong with that? Diaper wearing brings back the fond memories of a barely remembered time of absolute love and protection.

Sweetie, wear your diapers without guilt. Wet them, poop them if you wish, but above all, love yourself. No Dear, there is nothing wrong with wanting to wear nappies at any age! Be glad that you feel and need something so innocent, sweet and simple to make you feel loved and comfortable, Sweetiepie! You'd be surprised at how many diaper lovers there are out there who are your age or older. (My AB husband is the same age you are!)

Wear your diapers proudly, Sugar!
Mama Jenn



4/18/00
Mama Jenn,
My wife knows I enjoy being diapered and years ago she agreed to diaper me as long as she had complete control while I was playing baby. This sounded great until she started making me wear diapers and only diapers, when I'm in the house, for entire weekends and not letting me use the big boy potty for my poops. She doesnt mind changing me so maybe I just should enjoy this and stop whining. She has also started taking my temperature rectally and I like this. I'm afraid if I complain she'll stop being my mommy. Should I just get used to the idea of having to pee and poop in my diapers and wear them until mom feels like changing me?
Bobby

Dear Baby Bobby,
I'm not sure what dittums would complain about. Him's wanted to wear dipees, so him's Mommy agreed as long as she made the decisions the way a mommy should. Then she started putting him's in dipees for the weekend and let him's make his wetties and poo-poos in him's dipees. She changes her baby and doesn't get mad at him for making messes. Isn't this what Baby Bobby wanted? There are a lot of other babies who would give anything to be in your diapers, Sugarplum! Bobby decided a long, long time ago that he wanted to be a baby and he got what he wanted. It's obvious that your wife enjoys being a mommy and taking care of Baby Bobby. She may not want to let him go back to big boy clothes on weekends. Did Bobbykins ever think of that?

Doesn't Baby Bobby like wearing warm wet dipees? Or does making poopies in him's dipees bother Honeybunch? Remember, when little Bobby agreed to let Mommy have complete control, it meant that him's gave up all of him's control of him's potty needs to him's Mommy. Your Mommy knows, just as Mama Jenn knows, that little babies can't control their wetties OR their poopies! Lay back, put your thumb in your mouth and relax, Sweetiepie! Baby doesn't have anything to complain about. Him's just needs something to occupy him's itsy-bitsy mind, like watching Teletubies on the TV, drinking him's bottle of warm formula or playing with him's baby toys. If Baby Bobby doesn't have a bottle, binkie or baby toys, then he has something to cry about! (Pssst: If little Bobby really doesn't have a bottle, binkie, blankie or baby toys, then baby should show Mama Jenn's response to his Mommy. Mama Jenn is sure that your Mommy will get her baby everything he needs to be a contented, happy baby boy!)

As for your dipees, it's obvious that your Mommy knows what's best for her baby, even if him's doesn't. You're sooo lucky to have such a good, loving Mommy, Sweetheart!
Mama Jenn



4/10/00
muma how can i wet by accident.
samy

Baby Samy,
Did you read my answer to baby Stacy? If wittle Samy will look way, way down the "Ask Mama Jenn" page almost to the very, very bottom, he'll find baby Stacy's question about wetting dipees and Mama Jenn's answer.

If baby Samy doesn't want to wear dipees, than he should make pee-pee as many times a day as possible to keep him's bladder empty. After a couple of weeks, baby Samy's bladder will begin to shrink. In a month or two, him's bladder will be "oh so small" again and not be able to hold much pee before it "overflows". Also, him's little pee-pee muscles will get 'lazy" from not having to hold back and little Samy will have all the "accidents" he wants.

If baby Samy likes dipees and has problems wetting them, then he should follow Mama Jenn's advice for little Stacy until he gets used to making pee-pee in his dipees. Then he should make pee-pee all the time until his bladder shrinks all the way down into the size of a little boy's bladder.

Be patient, Sugarplum, in two to three months, you'll have "accidents" every day. In fact, little Samy will have to be potty trained again if he decides that he wants to use the potty again like a big boy.
Good luck, Sweetiepie!
Mama Jenn



4/10/00
Mama Jenn,
I 2 yeaw owd an dada said if me wite to you I no get panked fow sayin bad wowd to hims. I haves to ask you fow udder punshments. Dada no wike panking me but if i no tell him what ewse to use wike time out then i get a panking on my bawe widdo butt. Can you hewp me?
Dada's Baby Girl

Oh Dear!
Did Dada's baby girl say some naughty words? Well, has Dada washed your mouth out with soap? After that perhaps you should talk baby-talk for awhile until you learn which words are potty words and which words are okay for Dada's little girl to say. I'm sure your Dada would much rather hear you gooing and gaaing pleasantly than saying potty words. A day with your binkie would help remind baby girl to think before she talks. Now go and tell your Dada what Mama Jenn said and behave yourself, Sweet Bottoms!
Mama Jenn



4/08/00
deer Mama Jenn,
I'm a TB and i trusted my really mom enough to tell her about my being a TB. I told her in an open and honest way, but she did not take it as well as i thought she would. She didn't say she didn't love me anymore or anything like that but she totally disagreed with my veiws and took away all my diapers and baby stuff. So i ask if you have any advice on what i should do now, please
Davey

Dear Davey,
Mama Jenn sympathizes with you very much baby. it is very sad that your real mommy wont try to understand. Your problem is similar to Baby Lukes below. You can try taking those steps with your mommy too. I hope you go to some AB/DL chat rooms. Maybe you can find someone there to nuture your baby needs till your real mommy accepts them.
Good Luck Sweety,
Mama Jenn



4/08/00
MaMa Jenn
I am now 15 (turned 15 today!!!:) and i am rely sad becuse i luved to buy diapers off the net all the time untill my real mommey found out and she did not know what to think i am rely upset becuse when i buy anything off the net she checks the box i have so far smuggled 2 diapers in but the package was so small it could fit into the mail box but now she is home even more and that is rely hard to do i also tryed to ride my bike to a drug store or anything but there is no where in the arera i dont know what to do diapers are an adction to me please help me !!!!!
luv lile baby luke

Dear Baby Luke,
You have two choices; tell your Mommy how much you need to wear diapers at night to allow you to sleep peacefully like a baby or give up diapers until you're a big boy who is allowed to take care of himself.

Be honest with your Mommy, baby! Tell her how much you need your diapers. Tell her how scared the world makes you and how wearing diapers make you feel as safe and comfortable as when you were a little baby. Don't talk to her about addictions, because little babies' don't have addictions, only needs. If she denies you your diapers, then wet the bed a few times and sorrowfully tell her that's why you wanted to wear diapers. She might take you to a child psychiatrist, but he'll probably recommend that you be allowed to sleep in diapers until you've grown out of your developmental "phase".

If your Mommy gets really angry when you wet, then let things calm down a few weeks, then buy some diapers from a drugstore and store them in your school locker or at a friends until things improve. Wet your bed a few times while wearing underwear and (poorly)hide your soggy bed linens and undershorts in the closet. Your Mommy will probably discover them in the closet when they begin to smell like wet baby diapers. Then try giving her the same explanation as above. You'll probably end up in diapers.

The final choice is to give up diapers until you're eighteen and can move out on your own.
Good Luck, Pumpkin!
Mama Jenn



4/04/00
deer mama jenn,
i wuv my mommy very much. lately i been thinking of her as a woman sted of jus my mommy. is me bad to want my mommy in evewy way?

Honey,
That is a big people thought. If your mommy is also the wife or girlfriend of the big person in side you, than it's okay for the big person to think that way. When you're a baby, you should think sweet little innocent baby thoughts. Most AB's separate their fantasy baby life and their adult sexual feelings. They tend to operate on two levels; as an adult and as a baby.
Mama Jenn



3/31/00
mama, i want to have someone change me how do i find them i live in new jersey
Baby ST

me a baby me hab no mommy to wuv me where can me find a mommy?
BabyMattS

Dearest Baby ST and BabyMatts,

Finding a loving mommy or babysitter for a large baby can be difficult. The easiest way is to place a personal ad. LittleAB has made room for free personal ads on his Website and there are other Websites that offer the same services, though for a fee, such as DPF (Diaper Pail Friends). If baby really wants a babysitter or mommy, baby will have to try and try. Don't try once and then go off into a corner and pout! Big people go to different places and try different things and then wait patiently to see what happens. Can you do that? I know it's hard, but the two of you are looking for the biggest, richest, most humongous treasure in the world; a loving Mommy or babysitter!

DPF has a national AB club (BabyClub) which has a listing of available babysitters in your area. A free short listing can be found at:
http://www.dpf.com/sitter.html DPF also sells an excellent, inexpensive pamphlet titled the "Babysitter Solution" which details how to find and hire a non-AB aware babysitter in your area to change your diapers. DPF's URL is www.dpf.com.
The DPF can also be a wonderful place to meet the mommy of your dreams. They have a chatroom too! On the other hand, it's possible that you might be able to convince your girlfriend to be your mommy. DPF has posted its "Mommy Manual" for free on its Website at:
http://www.dpf.com/mommymanual.html

Darlings, finding a babysitter is MUCH easier than finding a mommy of your own! Be patient, good little babies and with a little luck, a loving mommy will find you.
Goodluck, Sugarplums!
Mama Jenn



3/31/00
Mama Jenn,
My mommy says that since i am a big girl now that when i am bad frum now on i will get a spanking this makes me sad and i cry what can i do
luv
summer

Summer, Sweetheart,
Try behaving yourself like a good girl. Mama Jenn doesn't agree with spanking, but your Mommy must feel differently. If you're good, then there's no reason to punish you. Mommies' don't like punishing their little girls, no matter how big they are.Be Good!
Mama Jenn



3/28/00
Mama Jenn,
where can i find some adultbaby clothes in north caorilon i live in greensbor nc
superd

Sweetheart,
try as Mama could, she couldn't find any manufacturers or distributors of Adult Baby Clothing in North Carolina. There are lots and lots of custom and off-the-shelf distributors in California and Canada, but take heart, Sweetipie, Mama has a tried and true method. If you need ruffled baby pants and dipees, then there are a number of sources on the Internet where exact size doesn't matter so much. You can find many links on LittleAB's link page to order diapers, plastic pants and AB clothes.

If you want to have custom baby clothes made for you locally, Honeybun, have your mommy take you to a seamstress who makes custom clothes for big people. A good plan is to tell the seamstress that you're going to a costume party and give her pictures of what you would like made for you. Patterns of the baby clothes would be helpful too, along with swatches of fabric that you might like.

Also, Walmart carries sleepers in larger women's sizes that might fit you. (Usually in the winter) There is a Website that sells them year long. Order them at least two sizes to large for your legs and bottom. Remember that a thick diaper makes a baby's bottom bulge, so your mommy should order a size that will accommodate your needs. Fortunately, women's clothes are cut with fuller bottoms than men's clothes!

Honey, if you're an "orphaned Adult Baby" with no mommy, you can do this all yourself! All it takes is the courage to pretend that you're a big boy in search of a costume. Mama Jenn knows that you're a brave baby, aren't you, Sugarplum? Otherwise you wouldn't have written Mama Jenn!

I hope this helps you find some nice clothes.

Love,
Mama Jenn



3/20/00
Mama Jenn,
do you think my father should still spank, at 19 years old. three hours ago my parents caught me naked, with a boy in the living room. We had been drinking beer. mom insisted dad spank me, and he did. 20 swatts with the belt. i wouldn't stop crying, so mom said, fine, if your going to act like a baby, i'll treat you like one. she gave me 10 more swatts, and then ordered me to my room, where she placed a makeshift diaper on me, and told me i was too wear a diaper for the rest of the weekend as part of my punishment.she informed me thats how she would punish me from now on. i was angry at first. i laid in bed for a while, kind of enjoying the diaper. the feel of it on my skin. do you have any suggestions, on how i can get her to do this to me everyday???

Dear Niki,
Mama Jenn doesn't believe in spanking children above the age of five. As for your plan to be naughty so you can be diapered again, well...It sounds like your Mommy and Daddy love their baby girl and are concerned for her, enough so that they are willing to go to any lengths to make her behave herself. Mama Jenn thinks baby Niki should behave herself. Little Niki has two choices, she can get a job and save up money to move out and have her own nursery in an apartment or she can buy a package of adult diapers, a couple of baby bottles and a pacifier and leave them out on her bed after her older sister has gone home. When your mommy asks about the diapers, tell her that she was right. That you are a baby and that you like wearing diapers. Promise her that if she treats you like a baby, you'll be good. Niki might get spanked again, but after some thought, your Mommy will probably agree to put you back in diapers every night.
Mama Jenn



3/20/00
Mommy,
I know that my place is on the changing table or across my mommies lap for a well deserved spanking. I actually like being spanked on my bare bottom. My favorite position has always been across mom's lap. She started spanking me while making be bend over the kitchen table. How do I tell mommy I would prefer being across her lap when she is spanking me without sounding like an ungrateful little kid?. Mommy is spanking me and I like that but it's not my preferred way.
Thank you Bottoms Up Bobby

Dear Little Bobby,
Little boys should always be truthful with their mommies. Mama Jenn knows that what you're really want is to be close to your Mommy even though she's punishing you for being naughty. Deep down you're afraid that Mommy doesn't love you when she punishes you. Isn't that true, Darling? Mama Jenn thinks that you should be very, very good for a day and then tell her how scared you get when she spanks you without holding you. Tell your Mommy how much you love her and how much you need her love, even (or especially) when you've been naughty. Tell her that you know that she only punishes you because she loves you, but that when she does spank you, you need to be near her more than ever because you get scared. Can you do that, Sweetheart? Sit on the carpet in front of your Mommy, put your head on her knee and tell your Mommy how much you love her. A sincere loving little boy's face looking up from his Mommy's knee is hard to resist and certainly doesn't appear ungrateful.
Mama Jenn



3/20/00
Mama Jenn,
what have you Punishment for bad girls?
thank you Ferdl

Dear Little Ferdl,
You haven't told Mama how old you are. Mama presumes that you're about five-years-old because you've learned to write, but not at a First Grade level. (But Mama Jenn thinks you're doing very well for a Kindergartner!) Mommies punish small children on the basis of their age, rather than their sex. Spanking teaches violence and should be avoided at all costs by loving Mommies.

Little babies shouldn't be punished. Sometimes they need their diapers changed, to be fed or nursed or be put down for their nap because they're cranky, but only if they're out of sorts.

Older babies who are approaching toddlerhood may have their hand lightly slapped on the spot (along with the firm command, "NO!") if they do something dangerous like trying to pull a lamp off a table on top of themselves, but that's not punishment, it's setting safety boundaries. If they're cranky, they should be put down for a nap in their crib in the nursery.

Toddlers who have begun speaking and have a rudimentary understanding of language may be swatted lightly on their diapers to get their attention if they ignore their Mommies. This is not a real spanking, but the sound of their Mommy's hand on their crinkly disposable diapers as well as the tender bump to their bottom gets their attention every time. Timeouts in their playpen are effective too. There is not much point in punishing a small child until the child is about four-years-old.

Late Toddlerhood (four years) children can be effectively punished with time-outs in the corner, lost of treats like their afternoon cookie or dinner desert. Early naptimes and bedtimes are useful for truly exasperated Mommies who need some peace. Preschoolers may be punished by time-outs, loss of treats, loss of special outings as well as early naptimes and bedtimes. Within limits, a Mommy may also scold them if the message is short enough for a preschooler's attention span.

I hope this answers your question, Sweetheart!
Mama Jenn



3/19/00
Hi Mama Jenn
I have a good queston for you. I have been a bedwetter most of my life, and lately my diaper rash has been getting bad. Iam afraid to go to a doctor cause he well ask me why I have diaper rash. Can you tell me how to easethe pain and rash
Baby Georgie

Dear Baby Georgie,
Mama Jenn sympathizes with her baby. Going to the doctor can be scary, but sometimes it's necessary to make baby all well again. Tell Mama, are baby's dipies completely soggy in the morning? If dittums has cloth ditties, maybe a soaker would help. If little Georgie wears disposables, a dipie insert or another kind of dipie will help Georgie stay dryer in the night. Maybe Georgie is 'llergic to his disposables. Baby could try changing to another brand.

Is baby taking care of himself? Does he wash between his legs with an antibacterial wash after he goes potty before going to bed? Does he use a dipie rash cream like Desitin? Does he lie around in his crib in his wet diapers in the morning, or does he get right up out of him's crib to wash and change? Does he use baby powder for his rash? Baby powder won't help the rash, Sugarplum. Mommies use baby powder to make their babies smell sweet after a bath.

Sweetheart, if Georgie is doing everything right, then he may have an infection. If he does, than he'll need to act like a big boy and go to the doctor for some medicine.

Take care of yourself, Sweetiepie.
Mama Jenn



3/19/00
Dear Mama Jenn,
Do you know anything that helps overcome inhibitions to use my diapers?
Stacy

Dear Stacy,
Mommies generally try to potty train their small ones rather than re-dipie train their older little boys, but Mama will do her best to please her want-a-be baby. When Stacy goes to the big boy bathroom, does he like to use the potty or the urinal to make pee-pee? If he likes the potty, then baby Stacy should diaper himself and sit on a chair. It's a good time to play on your 'puter and read your favorite baby stories. Baby should have a cooler at hand with plenty of drinks with caffeine, like sodas, tea or coffee or for much older babies, sighhhh, beer. If baby has a CD player in hims nursery, turn it on and play a CD with the sound of rushing water. Baby can find a CD like this at larger bookstores or music stores. They help babies and big people to sleep.

When baby Stacy feels the need to go, he should close his eyes, 'magine he's sitting on the potty and pee. Once baby has started making a pee-pee, he should go back to playing or reading on his 'puter and not think about peeing.

If baby likes big boy urinals, he should stand up when he needs to go, 'imagine that he's in the big boy bathroom making pee-pee. Once baby starts peeing, he can sit down again and go back to his play. After baby has done this for several nights and can pee-pee easily, he should switch to the potty method.

After a dozen nights (You learned what a dozen is in Kindergarten, didn't you Sweetheart?) of making pee-pee in him's dipies, baby Stacy's body will be used to making pee-pees in hims dipies. If baby Stacy wants to make messes (after learning to make pee-pee) in hims dipie, he should use the potty method using laxatives instead of drinks. It's easier for baby to make a poo-poo if hims dipie is wet.

Good luck, Honey. Mama hopes that everything will come out alright.
Mama Jenn



3/14/00
deer mama jenn,
my mommy doos soo much for me, whut kan me doo for hur to show my appreciation.
fank yew in advance, jacky
p.s. fank yew forr helping here....:o)

Honeybunch,
your mommy loves you dearly, otherwise she wouldn't do so much for you! Just love your mommy with all your heart! That's all any mommy can expect of her baby!
Mama Jenn